Teen Mom: 10 Shocking Revelations From Matt Baier’s ‘You Have No F–king Idea’
8. The Love Story
After three years and many stories, fans think they know Amber and Matt’s story but, as it turns out, there is much more to it than we knew. According to Matt, he first saw Amber while flipping through the TV and saw her on Dr. Phil and was drawn in by her story, so he went on to Twitter to find out more. “We connected first by talking about our addiction, and this led to more conversations, including ones normal friends would have, like Amber talking about her dating life and who she was seeing at the time. Yeah, you read that right. Amber was dating other people […] I considered our relationship friendly and platonic.” After direct messaging over Twitter for awhile, Matt gave Amber his number and the next day she called. “None of the conversation had anything to do with a romantic relationship,” he added and revealed that he initially lied about his age. “I told a little fib. I told her I was thirty-seven […] of course, she would later find out my real age and, while it didn’t sit well with her that I wasn’t truthful, I explained the same reasoning that I’m explaining here.” After their conversation, which lasted nearly eight hours, Amber contacted Matt again after a few days. “We talked for six months. Then Amber asked if I would want to come out and visit her. Like any friend, I was excited to meet her in person. At the time, there still wasn’t anything romantic happening.” However, his two day trip turned into nine when Amber kept asking him to stay, and after he left Amber blocked his number because she was nervous about having feelings for someone who was so much older, but it was her cousin, Krystal, who convinced Amber they were good together. “I had no idea Amber had blocked me and would only find this story out from her later on. I walked through my door and wasn’t home for more than five minutes before she called me and said, ‘You need to come back here. Take the pictures on your wall with you.’ Amber’s the one who made that phone call.” In fact, in the book’s foreword, Amber insists she was the one who pursued Matt, not the other way around. Despite being sober, Matt says his love for Amber made him relapse when they began dating, but also made him stop again. “When we met, she still didn’t believe I was 100% sober. Her perception was spot on.” She found his pills and flushed them down the toilet. “That was it. I never took a pill again,” he wrote.
In order to tell his story, Matt started at the beginning including an explanation of his childhood. He explained that growing up he had a large Italian family and they were all very close-knit, but when his grandparents passed away things changed and they started to grow distant. Matt was one of three children with two older sisters, who are ten and nine years older than him. “We were close, but I was more of an annoying little brother than a friend.” While he seemed to have a solid family life, they had their issues and the biggest was his dad’s drinking problem. “Due to this, almost every night there would be a huge fight in my house,” and he said, “Regardless of her knowing he had a problem, my mother would never openly admit that he had issues with alcohol.” He added that while there were blowout fights there was never any physical violence. When he was nine, his parents got divorced and although his dad promised to come see him he never did. Unfortunately, Matt and his mom didn’t have a close relationship where they could talk about anything and he started getting into trouble as a teenager, leading to his downward spiral into drugs.